An Advice From Granny

An Advice From Granny

My grandma, who lives with me and my family these days, called me yesterday with a look of concern on her face and told me that she had something important to tell me. Judging by the expression on her face and her tone of voice, I was beginning to feel slightly wary what the matter was about. The whole conversation went on more or less like the following:

Atuk: Wan, atuk nak cakap sikit… duduk sini kejap..

Me: Apa dia tuk?

Atuk: Kau esok bila dah kahwin, kau jangan ‘bersama’ dulu dengan isteri kau sampai sudah bersanding.

Me: (slightly taken aback, but could not help smiling..) Kenapa lak tuk?

Atuk: Nanti hilang seri pengantinnya… tak molek nanti bila duduk bersanding..

Me: (I just could not help pushing the conversation further…) Ye ke tuk? Ada beza ke rupa kita kalau bersama dengan tak bersama? Wan tengok kawan2 Wan yang dah kahwin nampak cam sama je rupa diorang..

Atuk: (With a look of incredulity on her face and her tone of voice…) Ehh mana leh sama. Lain cu.. orang kalau dah bersama muka dia gini2 haa… (showing me an expression of what the hilang-seri-look looks like) Lain seri orang kahwin ngan seri orang bujang… kalau boleh molek la masa bersanding tu ada seri orang bujang lagi…

Me: (I egged her on…) Orang boleh perasan ke tuk bezanya? (will people be able to tell the difference granny?)

Atuk: Ehh.. mana leh tak perasan.. orang perasanlah… (again, with a tone of incredulity in her voice)

Later that night as I was about to go to bed, I went to see her and to show my appreciation for her such ‘concern’, thanked her for her kindly advice. Before I left she added:

Atuk: Nanti atuk nak tunjuk Wan sesuatu… kena tahu apa nak buat bila dah kahwin nanti.. kau kena tanya ngan orang2 tua petua dah kahwin…

I didn’t dare to ask her to elaborate further on that statement. Since she was still talking in innuendos when she referred to the thing that she wanted to show me, I figured it might be something that I wouldn’t want to see it from her. Petua2 orang dah kahwin? I wonder what petua she might have meant? Hmmm…

It’s funny the things that could be of concern to your elderly, where we don’t seem to think so much of. Will give some thought to your advice grandma. If I could wait for 12 years, I guess I could extend it for a few more days… Haha!

Thanks granny! : - )